Tech Tip: Protect Against Romance Scams

Romance scammers are highly skilled at what they do. They can spend weeks, or even months, building trust and emotional connection before ever asking for money. While there is no foolproof way to spot a romance scam, knowing the warning signs to look out for can help protect you from getting scammed.

Warning Signs

Be cautious if someone you meet online:

• Moves very fast emotionally
  They declare love, strong feelings, or a “special connection” within days or weeks.
• Avoids meeting in person or video calls
  They always have an excuse e.g. broken camera, working overseas, military restrictions.
• Has a desperate or tragic story
  They claim to be widowed, lonely, have a sick family member, or dealing with repeated crises that invite sympathy.
• Asks for money or financial help
  Requests may be for travel costs, medical bills, business problems, or emergencies.
• Suggests sending money in unusual ways
  They ask for gift cards, cryptocurrency, wire transfers, or cash. These are all methods that are hard to trace or recover.
• Encourages secrecy
  They urge you not to tell friends or family, or say “others wouldn’t understand our relationship.”
• Uses stolen or too-perfect photos
  Their images look professional, model-like, or can’t be found in genuine social media histories.
• Directs you to investment opportunities
  Especially cryptocurrency or “guaranteed” returns linked to their advice or a new platform.
• Stories don’t add up
  Details about their job, location, or background change over time or don’t make sense.
• Pressure and urgency increase
  They push you to act quickly, warning that delays will cause serious consequences.

Protect Yourself

Taking a few simple precautions can significantly reduce your risk of being caught in a romance scam:

• Take your time
  Be cautious of anyone who pushes the relationship forward very quickly. Genuine relationships develop gradually.
• Verify who you are talking to
  Do a reverse image search of their profile photos and check for a consistent online presence. Be wary if details don’t add up.
• Never send money to someone you haven’t met
  No matter how convincing the story sounds, never send money, cryptocurrency, gift cards, or financial details to someone you only know online.
• Be careful with personal information
  Avoid sharing sensitive details such as your address, date of birth, financial information, or copies of identification.
• Watch for pressure or urgency
  Scammers often rush victims into decisions by creating crises or deadlines. Pause before taking any action.
• Keep friends and family involved
  Talk openly with people you trust about new online relationships. An outside perspective can help spot red flags you might miss.
• Trust your instincts
  If something feels wrong, confusing, or too good to be true, it probably is.
• Report and block suspicious contacts
  Use reporting tools on dating apps and social media platforms, and contact organisations like Netsafe for advice and support.

Staying informed, cautious, and connected to trusted people is one of the best defences against romance scams.